Dealing with the loss of a child is an unbearable experience for any parent. The grief and confusion are even more profound when the cause of the child's death is unknown. A significant number of stillbirths are labeled as "unexplained," leaving parents in a state of constant questioning and self-blame.
The Complicated Healing Process
Simultaneously wanting an answer and being scared to find out the answer is a common, and complicated, part of the unexplained stillbirth healing process.
Learning that your child's death is unexplained can lead to a range of emotional and psychological effects. These include confusion, self-judgement and blame, shame and guilt, anger and frustration, and obsessive thoughts. It's crucial to know that these reactions are normal and part of the grieving process - but that mental health support is required when they become distressful to the griever.
Research Revelations
Research conducted by Yale University indicates that up to 90% of these “unexplained” stillbirths may actually be attributed to placenta issues. This means that if placenta volume were measured throughout the third trimester, more stillbirths could be prevented. This revelation not only helps in understanding the cause of many unexplained stillbirths but also provides a potential area of intervention to prevent such tragic losses.
Finding Peace In Grief
Whether or not you decide or have access to find answers about what may have caused your child's stillbirth, you deserve to have peace. You should know that most research concludes that the death was beyond the parent's control; meaning your child’s stillbirth was not your fault. It's important to remember this, even when grappling with guilt and self-blame. You deserve answers, and ongoing research is striving to provide them. For more information, check out MeasureThePlacenta.com and PushForEmpoweredPregnancy.com.
Mental Health after Stillbirth
If your mental health is struggling after your child’s stillbirth and you want a therapist that has walked a mile in your shoes, please reach out. Losing a child is a devastating experience, and there are several mental health therapies that can help provide relief for postpartum anxiety, depression, OCD and PTSD.
There are therapists and support groups specializing in helping parents cope with this kind of loss. Do not hesitate to reach out and seek the help you might need during this challenging time.
If you are in Texas, Megan DuBose is licensed to provide mental health counseling. If you are outside to Texas and need support, please visit RTZHope.com for a myriad of resources.
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